9 Tips For Traveling With a Baby

When Caroline was a wee little one, we lived up to our pre-baby promise to keep doing our global travels. In her first year and half of life, she traveled from our home throughout Florida to Wisconsin, Pennsylvania, Georgia, Tennessee, North Carolina, New York, Italy,  and Ecuador .

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Traveling with a baby resembles a dirty word. Every time we would mention it to friends and colleagues, they would cringe and say things like “ohhhhreally” “you’re taking her with???!!!”

The reality is traveling with a baby is not as scary as we make it out to be. It is all about preparation and mindset. Here are nine tips for all you mommas preparing to travel with an infant — international or domestic.

  1. Make a list. — Include EVERYTHING you can imagine you might need. Write it out on paper and make sure to check it more than twice.
  1. Find a bag that does it all. —Every traveling momma needs a great bag. I have found that diaper bags can be limiting, so I found myself a large messenger “ish” bag that has shoulder straps and a cross body strap but also zips closed and has more than enough room for the essentials — diapers, wipes, toys food my wallet and passports, my camera and a few extras.
  1. New Toys—Find some small new toys that are interactive to distract your little one during taxi and take off. Keep them handy and use as needed throughout your journey.

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    Reading a new book on a Mommy and Me flight out to NYC.
  1. Wear your Baby. —Don’t ditch the stroller by any means. You will need that thing! Do, however, bring a wrap or baby-wearing device so you can board and de-board with your hands free to carry any extra baggage you might have.

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    Hands free for the train in Italy
  1. Get a Fly Baby. —They are awesome!. You attach it to the seat in font of you and yourself to make a baby hammock that your little one can sleep in or just sit up and face you. This helps give you some extra space and frees up your hands a bit.

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  1. Find a sturdy umbrella stroller. —That way you can fold it up and toss it around.
  1. Call the airline. — If you are traveling internationally and your baby is younger than one and under a certain weight, the airline will at NO EXTRA COST move you to the bulkhead AND you can request the bulkhead bassinet. Yup, that’s right! You will have a bassinet that after take off your baby can sleep and play in lap free and at no extra cost to you. They are limited per flight so make sure to call the airline as soon as you book your tickets to reserve the bassinette.
  1. Do your research. —If you are traveling abroad, know what the culture is like in regards to babies and prepare yourself. That might mean bringing your own car seat or packing some extra baby food. You might be surprised how tolerant other cultures are in regards to little ones. However, you also need to be prepared for those not-so-great things like no cribs in hotels.
  1. Breathe. —Try not to stress out and enjoy the process. It is what it is. If your baby cries, do what you can to soothe him or her, but if it does not work just know it will all be over soon! You will find most people are understanding and might even tell you how awesome of a mom you are in the process.
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Our little family on a stroll in Milan, Italy! 
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Making new friends in Quito, Ecuador 

 

Time

I have been thinking a lot about time today. How fast it flys by and how time is one of the few things you can never get back.

When making the choice to be a working Mom, it did not feel much like a decision but more of something I had to do. If I could go back and spend more time making the choice, would it be different?

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I often obsess about the time I will never get back with Caroline and focus my days on figuring out how to change that for the future.

Can I be a working “hustling” Mom and still get all the time I want and need with my girl? I see other Mom’s who have done it, they seem to have it all! Then I find myself wasting time trying to figure out how to get more time… what a predicament!

Trying to “do it all” and “doing it all” sure seem to get in the way of “having it all”

Letting go and accepting where I am is something I need to work harder on.

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I have never been known for my artistic abilities other than behind a camera or on a computer… So when I told my family I wanted to start “making” things for Caroline on my very own sewing machine they were not very supportive.

However, I am happy to say I may not be the best at this sewing thing BUT… I did finish a skirt last night that I think she will actually be able to wear and not have to turn into doll clothes like my first two attempts…

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Having  a girl is so much fun and as “creative” individual I have so many great ideas in my head. It is the actual execution of all these great projects on top of working full time, side jobs, and just being a Mommy that get in the way.

I am so jelly of those mom who seem to have it all together crafting, cleaning, the list can go on.

For those Mom’s like me who struggle but still want to create try using youtube tutorials to get a grasp on things. Here is a link to the one I used to make a simple skirt, it is from another Mom blogger MADEeveryday.

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A Mom That Hustles

No matter which way you look at it being a Mom is hard work. Despite if you are staying at home all day with the kids (or kid) working from 9-5, working from 9-5 and then working your side job on top of being a Mamma. Single or co-parenting it is all relative…

There is so much pressure on women (sorry men) to be it all. I am not saying men don’t work hard and play an important role, or that there are not single fathers or stay at home Dad’s kicking ass out there.

What am saying is the social pressure and emotional (hormonal) connection to “mom” can get to be unbearable for some women and at times we have no one but ourselves to blame.

I myself am a mother of one (Caroline) working full time in a leadership role at a non-profit organization. On top of my day job I freelance, adjunct lecture and run a photography business. Oh and I am a Mom! My husband has a good job, but it requires him to travel so I often find myself in-between that limbo of co-parenting and suddenly needing to do it all on my own.

I am not sure what my reason or purpose for writing this is, but I felt it is necessary to get it out there and potentially release some of the pressure I feel “doing it all.”

My husband tells me he is proud of me a Director before 30 an Adjunct Lecture at a top University a business owner and a great Mom. I am proud, I have achieved a lot in the past 30 years of my life and I thrive on the feeling of success and the impact I am making in the community I serve. I also manage to workout a train for half marathons and constantly chase (literally) the want and need to be a fit mom.

Then why do I feel like I am missing so much, missing out on my daughter, missing out on experiences. Time is always on my mind…if I get here 10 min early I can sneak out get more time with my daughter put her to sleep, grade papers, edit photos, meet with potential clients.

There is never enough time and it is always seeming to fly by . Some times all I cant think about is a way to escape time, is it work for myself? Find remote job? I am not sure but I do know I often find myself obsession over a way to escape the hectic Mom hustle I find my self in and just be a mom.

It is all SO over whelming……….. so why do I do this?

I feel the pressure like a ton of bricks be a Mom that “hustles” to bring in as much income as my husband. I want to be able to experience life with my daughter, travel the world but also provide a structured stable home life. That is why I hustle.

I see other moms while I am on my lunch break when I sneak off to Target to pick up more diapers. I look at them with their babies or toddlers and I feel overwhelmed with sadness. Did I make the wrong choice? I am proud of my career, I really am, but I miss my girl, I miss so many of those precious moments, but I also get time to myself, time to be ME not just Mommy.

This is good right?

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