I know this may not apply to all working households but I wanted to set the record straight for mine. My husband works full time, he has a good job and makes good money. I work full time, I have a great job and make good money. We are a working FAMILY, taking on the stresses of the household and the office, we do it together…
Even though I will admit I carry a lot of the stereotypical burden of being the “mom” we both as parents work hard to provide and prioritize our family and time with our daughter. For some reason I think its important we don’t forget that not all working mom’s are at it alone. My husband pushes and supports me to further my career and pursue success because my success is our success. There are times that I wish I had an “easy” job, or stayed at home but the reality is my personality would not stand for it. I love my daughter but 24hrs a day with little interaction with adults does not sound like my cup of tea.
I am a working mom but I am not doing it alone. Sometimes I wonder if I am missing out by working and to be honest I’m still not convinced I am not… BUT I am proud of all my family has accomplished and look forward to dominating our career paths even more as we grow.
PS. Those Mom’s and Dad’s that do it solo props to you! #yourock
There is a lot of advice, rants, ideals and expectations on the internet for working and non-working mothers. I think about this a LOT, some days a lot more than others, but it definitely crosses my mind on a daily basis.
We have all seen the blogs about mothers deserving more time off and more paid leave ( like the rest of the world). While most of the things they say are correct it should not be assumed that because of your gender and title as mother means you want to give up a career and spend more time at home.
Heck, talk about gender bias! So are we saying because of our gender that it is our deserved right to nurture and mother a child? Does this mean a husband does not have similar desires or rights? What if you are a mother that wants to work? Does that mean there is something wrong with you? ( I say absolutely not).
I am not saying we don’t deserve more leave and PAID leave because we do and so do fathers. It is hard to argue that America is not way behind the curve on this. However, I am saying we need to be less one-sided on our messaging to the “ideals” of working mothers.
Some of us want to be successful AND to spend as much time with our babies as possible and some of us want nothing more than to be a mother and wife. both are ok in my book, so why does our online media try so hard to make us feel like we should be ashamed of our choices?
I think it is safe to say that we have all seen, said or heard “She’s not Bossy she is a leader”.
As a member of the infamous “bossy woman’s club” and the mother of a very smart assertive and sure of herself two year old little lady, we both encountered this phrase often.
Unfortunately, to me is is not funny or cute it is a reality that many women in leadership have to deal with on a regular basis. Being “bossy” and a female has not always been a cute meme or t-shirt…
It is a struggle to be taken seriously, respected or heard instead of being perceived as pushy in the work place. Why can’t a woman be assertive (bossy) and confident? Men do it every day in leadership and no one calls them bossy.
Luckily for me I have over come this stereotype and excelled in my career. Although, who knows where I would be if my CEO was not herself a member of the “bossy woman’s club”. Despite my title and leadership role, I am often given this label when simply doing the job I worked hard to earn.
I hope I can show my daughter that there is no shame in being confident in herself AND her ability to lead her peers with power and grace. The world is changing and woman’s rights have advanced greatly over the years, but we still have work to do.
On a day like today as we inaugurate our new president, Donald Trump, I can’t help but to feel unsure of the future for women, but know we are fighters and will march on (pun intended).
A lot of time has passed since my last post: My daughter is two and a HALF! (OMG), I was promoted to Vice President of Marketing, Communications and Advancement at my “full-time gig”, we have traveled A LOT (wouldn’t have it any other way), not to mention all the learning and growing each of us have done in these long but short two and a half years.
Being a hustling mom is challenging, work is challenging, keeping up with my photography business is challenging, but I charge on because #ihustleforher
Stay tuned for lots of catch up posts about our adventures 🙂
While developing this blog I felt it was important to have a strong name that was more of a statement than a “title” or “logo”. Obviously, as you can see by the name of my url, I came up with “I Hustle For Her”. I am excited to introduce our brand mark/logo to you all!
I hope that this will be used as a way to show support for other mom’s and to help other hustling momma’s feel proud of what they do for their children. I encourage you all to use #ihustleforher on Instagram and Facebook to help spread the mom power!
I have been thinking a lot about time today. How fast it flys by and how time is one of the few things you can never get back.
When making the choice to be a working Mom, it did not feel much like a decision but more of something I had to do. If I could go back and spend more time making the choice, would it be different?
I often obsess about the time I will never get back with Caroline and focus my days on figuring out how to change that for the future.
Can I be a working “hustling” Mom and still get all the time I want and need with my girl? I see other Mom’s who have done it, they seem to have it all! Then I find myself wasting time trying to figure out how to get more time… what a predicament!
Trying to “do it all” and “doing it all” sure seem to get in the way of “having it all”
Letting go and accepting where I am is something I need to work harder on.