Do your family photos when you travel

As a photographer, one might assume my family is well documented, but the reality is, it’s not. My husband and daughter are well documented but Mommy is often left behind the camera and missing from family moments.

My little family has done a lot of traveling in the short two and half years of my daughters life. So when it can time again for family photos, I used a family trip to New York City as an opportunity.

We scheduled a family session in Central Park and it was the best travel decision I have made in a long time!

My first thought was it might be to costly in the big city, but the reality is you can find a photographer  within your budget just about anywhere in the world. We ended up booking a friends wife, Asher Gardner, an amazingly talented and sweet woman.

We met on a cold November day in the park and spent and and hour taking photos. It was so exciting having professional images of all three of us in a place that we created life long memories. Not to mention it makes great wall art!

So the next time you are planning that big family trip, take some time do some research and find a photographer to capture your family. Oh and if your in NYC make sure to look up Asher Gardner Photography!

#momphotog

#ihustleforher

xo,

Laurie

Then it happened to me…

I have never been a safety obsessed parent. I care about my child’s safety and make sure we don’t put her in harms way, but I tend to not sweat the small stuff. It seems like almost every day if not every hour there is some new parenting rule about how to do it the right way, safest way or best way. Sometimes I wonder how we all survived before ALL these rules came into play…

Anyways, here is my story and word of caution to parents about furniture and tip hazards.

Yesterday, I was getting ready in my bathroom about 3 feet away from my daughter when it happened… Our relatively new Ikea dresser tipped over top heavy on my two year old daughter!!!!!!!

It was not your classic unattended child story, she simply walked up the the dresser pulled out a drawer then another. As I heard something slide off the top I turned to see the dresser crashing down on my baby. Without hesitation I grabbed the dresser, but it was to late. The drawers came crashing down on her. As she screamed and cried I carefully got her out form under the mess. Her arms were red and puffy and the left side of her face already swollen and turing black and blue.

I was terrified but level headed, I quickly asked her to move the areas the seemed injured and to my relief it seemed like other then some serious bruising and dresser PTSD she was ok. OMG! I was shaking but keeping it together for her, I didn’t want her to see I was just as scared. After a few minutes passed we both calmed down sat on the bed and called Daddy to make sure we did not over react and call 911 to take her to the emergency room. She was ok, shaken but nothing broken.

After this happened I started to google Ikea tip over stories and found that some families were not so lucky. Grateful for our relatively happy ending I am terrified of the what ifs… what if I was not there to help her…what if it hit her head just right… ugh.

After reading up on it I found that IKEA (Orlando) should have offered us straps and did not! I am angry and annoyed that they do not do more to assure the safety of their customers and their children at the store level. Of course their corporate office promotes safety but WHY did no one in the store offer us the secure straps as we check out with out two year old in tow?

The top heavy design became apparent to me a few times when using it myself… but I NEVER thought it would completely tip over by just having two drawers open at the same time.

For those of you who shop at Ikea PLEASE make sure to secure your furniture. This is a link to the dresser we have that is still for sale and should be recalled.

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/20318601/

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#scaredmamma

#ikeatipover

xo,

Laurie

Vice President at 30

This past year has been noting but extraordinary! Not because everything has been perfect, but because I have embraced life. Working hard in my professional and personal life, I chased what I wanted and felt knew I deserved. Why can’t we have it all like the men? The job the office the title…AND the family, a clean home and all the baby giggles and cuddles. Oh and don’t forget a hot bod!

This past April I found myself in an interesting situation, my boss had left her Sr VP role and I had two options. 1. Go with the flow and wait for her replacement to come in change things… possibly screw up my amazing working mom flexibility and current situation. OR 2. Ask for what I had already proven to deserve and take over both departments.

Long story short, I braved up and went for it! I wrote a proposal of how and why this could/should happen and presented it to our President and CEO. I decided that if I was going to do this working mom thing then I needed to lean in and do it big! Sometimes in life you need to take risks and believe in yourself. Thats exactly what I did, I believed in myself, took a deep breath and leaned in.

Now at the ripe age of 30 (for the next few weeks) I have leaned in so hard and hustled like a mother to become a VP of an organization with over 500 employees. There were so many hurtles long before I become a mom, but I am here now.

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#leanintogether

#ihustleforher

#motherhustler

xo,

Laurie

A Mom That Hustles

No matter which way you look at it being a Mom is hard work. Despite if you are staying at home all day with the kids (or kid) working from 9-5, working from 9-5 and then working your side job on top of being a Mamma. Single or co-parenting it is all relative…

There is so much pressure on women (sorry men) to be it all. I am not saying men don’t work hard and play an important role, or that there are not single fathers or stay at home Dad’s kicking ass out there.

What am saying is the social pressure and emotional (hormonal) connection to “mom” can get to be unbearable for some women and at times we have no one but ourselves to blame.

I myself am a mother of one (Caroline) working full time in a leadership role at a non-profit organization. On top of my day job I freelance, adjunct lecture and run a photography business. Oh and I am a Mom! My husband has a good job, but it requires him to travel so I often find myself in-between that limbo of co-parenting and suddenly needing to do it all on my own.

I am not sure what my reason or purpose for writing this is, but I felt it is necessary to get it out there and potentially release some of the pressure I feel “doing it all.”

My husband tells me he is proud of me a Director before 30 an Adjunct Lecture at a top University a business owner and a great Mom. I am proud, I have achieved a lot in the past 30 years of my life and I thrive on the feeling of success and the impact I am making in the community I serve. I also manage to workout a train for half marathons and constantly chase (literally) the want and need to be a fit mom.

Then why do I feel like I am missing so much, missing out on my daughter, missing out on experiences. Time is always on my mind…if I get here 10 min early I can sneak out get more time with my daughter put her to sleep, grade papers, edit photos, meet with potential clients.

There is never enough time and it is always seeming to fly by . Some times all I cant think about is a way to escape time, is it work for myself? Find remote job? I am not sure but I do know I often find myself obsession over a way to escape the hectic Mom hustle I find my self in and just be a mom.

It is all SO over whelming……….. so why do I do this?

I feel the pressure like a ton of bricks be a Mom that “hustles” to bring in as much income as my husband. I want to be able to experience life with my daughter, travel the world but also provide a structured stable home life. That is why I hustle.

I see other moms while I am on my lunch break when I sneak off to Target to pick up more diapers. I look at them with their babies or toddlers and I feel overwhelmed with sadness. Did I make the wrong choice? I am proud of my career, I really am, but I miss my girl, I miss so many of those precious moments, but I also get time to myself, time to be ME not just Mommy.

This is good right?

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