I know this may not apply to all working households but I wanted to set the record straight for mine. My husband works full time, he has a good job and makes good money. I work full time, I have a great job and make good money. We are a working FAMILY, taking on the stresses of the household and the office, we do it together…
Even though I will admit I carry a lot of the stereotypical burden of being the “mom” we both as parents work hard to provide and prioritize our family and time with our daughter. For some reason I think its important we don’t forget that not all working mom’s are at it alone. My husband pushes and supports me to further my career and pursue success because my success is our success. There are times that I wish I had an “easy” job, or stayed at home but the reality is my personality would not stand for it. I love my daughter but 24hrs a day with little interaction with adults does not sound like my cup of tea.
I am a working mom but I am not doing it alone. Sometimes I wonder if I am missing out by working and to be honest I’m still not convinced I am not… BUT I am proud of all my family has accomplished and look forward to dominating our career paths even more as we grow.
PS. Those Mom’s and Dad’s that do it solo props to you! #yourock
There is a lot of advice, rants, ideals and expectations on the internet for working and non-working mothers. I think about this a LOT, some days a lot more than others, but it definitely crosses my mind on a daily basis.
We have all seen the blogs about mothers deserving more time off and more paid leave ( like the rest of the world). While most of the things they say are correct it should not be assumed that because of your gender and title as mother means you want to give up a career and spend more time at home.
Heck, talk about gender bias! So are we saying because of our gender that it is our deserved right to nurture and mother a child? Does this mean a husband does not have similar desires or rights? What if you are a mother that wants to work? Does that mean there is something wrong with you? ( I say absolutely not).
I am not saying we don’t deserve more leave and PAID leave because we do and so do fathers. It is hard to argue that America is not way behind the curve on this. However, I am saying we need to be less one-sided on our messaging to the “ideals” of working mothers.
Some of us want to be successful AND to spend as much time with our babies as possible and some of us want nothing more than to be a mother and wife. both are ok in my book, so why does our online media try so hard to make us feel like we should be ashamed of our choices?